Haqooq-ul-Ibaad: What Rights Do your Children Have?

The best thing about Islam is that no part of life has been left untouched. Whenever you are confused about anything, you should turn to Quran and Hadith for there always is an answer.

Haqooq-ul-Ibaad means the rights of people, what we owe to them. We should exercise great care to fulfill Haqooq-ul Ibaad because Allah might forgive us for not fulfilling Haqooq-ul Allah, but if the person concerned does not forgive us for our negligence, Allah would not forgive us in his place.

Every one including our children have rights which should be taken care of. Some of their rights are as follows:

1. The first right of the children is specifically for the father to fulfill. He should choose his wife/ the future mother of his children with extreme care. She should be chosen for her piety, loving nature and on the basis of her Imaan. He should provide halal food from his halal income.

2. When a child is born, Adan should be given in his/ her right ear and iqama in the left ear.

3. The new born should be given something edible  by the hands of a pious man/ woman. Our Prophet used to chew date in his mouth, take it out and then rub it on the roof of the mouth of the newborn.

4. A newborn should be given a nice, meaningful Islamic name. The names of prophets and sahaba/sahabiyat  should be preferred.

5. The children deserve an aqeeqa (sacrifice) on the 7th day of their birth. This is sunnat-e-moakkida.  The aqeeqa animal should have all the qualities that qualify it for Qurbani on Eid. It is better to sacrifice two animals for a son while one animal for a daughter. If somehow the 7th day is missed for the sacrifice, Aqeeqa can be done on the 14th or 21st day of birth as well.

6. On the 7th day, the head of the baby should be shaved. His/ her hair should be weighed and then silver equivalent of the weight of the hair should be given to the poor(khairaat).

7. Every newborn deserves to be breast fed for two years, but  parents can consent otherwise.

8. It is the duty of the parents to provide the child with good education of both deen and dunya. The child deserves to be treated with love, respect and kindness at all the times, however he should be taught manners.

9. When the children turn 7 years of age, they should be taught namaz; when they turn 10 and do not offer salah properly, it is allowed to punish them until they start behaving properly. The siblings should be made to sleep in separate beds after 10 years of age.

10. When they are old enough, the parents should marry them off.